Day 1256 a very productive but anxious day…. 😔🫶🏼

Ok so another morning blog rant to record the actual state I am in just now.

Oh my god this car insurance thing is the gift that keeps on giving…. 😔

I’ve been awake since 3am.

I’ve made a list of all the things I need to do to try and stop my head from buzzing. I have 3 precious days off and yet I don’t feel anywhere near as happy as I should, at that.

Number one priority is to get this car insurance debacle sorted once and for all.

I should have just given in and paid the double insurance 4 days ago but the injustice of it all is pushing me to every last ditch attempt. I do not want to give up my 20+ years no claims too easily. I want to try every angle.

I’ve been on the phone to car insurance every lunchtime this week except Thursday because I forgot. Having Khaleesi in work was a good distraction. 😂

I moved down to the spare room at 3am so I didn’t disturb Craig. I wrote my list, read a bit and seems I did get back to sleep at some point.

The red is awake time. I know that’s nothing compared to some people but it’s so infuriating when I know I am causing all of my own stress through my own anxiety. I am making all of this happen.

I called Esure st 8.04am. I was on the phone for 12 minutes…. Only to be told it’s a decision for the underwriters.

Call back at 10am.

I hoovered the whole house.

I called back at 10.04am.

3 min tired of security and waiting to be hung up on.

Esure hang up calls when they are too busy.

Do it online.

I can’t. It won’t let me. It needs authorised by the underwriter.

I need to keep calling back until I can get past the 3 minute mark and get in a queue.

I burst into tears. (Yeah again)

It’s so bloody infuriating.

So I’m sat here having a good cry, writing this and I do feel a bit better.

There is some inner child inside me, having a total hissy fit that I have to go through all this. My teeth are grinding.

Today I will pay the extra premium if this last ditch attempt fails. I won’t tell them that though, if I can ever get through.

So, dog walk time it is. I split them in Freya and Bhruic and leave Calaidh and Khaleesi to last.

It’s dry and mild. We have a lovely walk. It does help so much to be out in nature.

I then came back and took Calaidh And Khaleesi up the hill. Calaidh can be off lead for most of it and Khaleesi gets a shorter walk.

It’s not the easiest having two Calaidh/Khal’s. As Calaidh was off lead I always call her back and Khaleesi thinks I’m calling her. She comes bounding towards me when I’m wanting the other one. It makes me laugh.

Watching Calaidh in the distance.

Checking out the cows…. look at her wee right paw… that’s the sore one. She has a hope, skip and a jump every now and then. She’s a wee soul.

So when I came back I dialled the insurance again….. SOMEONE ANSWERED STRAIGHT AFTER THE 3 MINUTE BLURB!

I was on the phone for 54 minutes. 😳

Esure will not accept the 23 years no claims either.

So they quoted on 3 years and I paid it.

I was obviously on hold for a lot of those 54 minutes…. the hold music was “Wonderful Wold” and “Amazing Grace”…

🎼🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵

“I once was lost but now I’m found”

“… and I think to myself what a wonderful world”

🎼🎶🎵🎶🎵🎶🎵

It’s enough to calm my mind and realise how far I’ve come. The world didn’t stop turning because I only have 3 years no claims bonus on my car insurance.

It’s was such a relief to finally stop fighting. I was never gonna win, I just had to try.

Craig called to say he was on his way home so I suggested Mocha Jak’s for lunch. I needed cheering up and when you don’t drink, there’s always cake and coffee.

We both agreed we didn’t need the cakes…. AFTER we’d eaten them. 😆 The Biscoff Rocky Road was pretty special.

Once we got back home I spent the afternoon ironing.

I NEVER iron clothes.

Except when I have holidays to pack for. 🙆🏻‍♀️

It’s a bit early to be ironing for Turkey 🇹🇷 but at least a fair bit of it is done. I just might be a creased mess when I’m there.

I’ve fed the dogs. Hung up washing and run the dishwasher.

I am shattered now and just sat down. I might never eat again after that Biscoff Rocky Road.

This made me chuckle 🤭

Hope you all have a great weekend!

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1254 morning blog rant… 🤷🏻‍♀️😆

My head is all over the place this morning. Everything is swirling around and I can’t make a decision to save myself.

I sleep like a log but get so irritated at waking up early and not being able to go back to sleep for thinking. I’ve been awake since before 5 again. Making no decisions just running things around in my head.

As I said yesterday, life is good for me just now, things are going well and I’m going with the flow yet I feel sucked into a vortex again these last few days.

I know it’s just the insurance debacle. It’s taken over my life for the last few days. I have lots going on just now that I don’t really want to have to deal with so my anxious head screws it all around. I have to say I’ve dealt with this all very well but I know I’m second guessing everything just now.

Still on the Covid & Flu vaccine…. I have decided I will get it but for months I’ve mulled over should I get it before or after my summer holidays… what if it makes me feel sick and ruins my breaks away. What if I don’t get it and then I catch covid and can’t go away. What if, what if…. I’m just going to get it.

The girl who’s buying my van isn’t coming to get it until the end of September… when I’m in Turkey. Still having the van is causing me a lot of anxiety as it’s still my responsibility. She’s actually going to be in West Lothian this weekend and I wanted to try and get the van to her, but that just adds more for me to think about. I’ll have to get a days insurance, Craig would have to drive over with me and it will take up at least 3 hours of our weekend when I have enough to be doing.

I have two holidays to pack for. I know that two holidays is a lot of fun. I’ve been mulling around for ages about what to take but I don’t actually want to start dealing with it.

I need to short circuit this otherwise I will second guess everything all day.

This morning I know it’s too much and I came to work early to sit in the car and write this down. Bet I cringe when I look back on it tonight.

Yup, cringed! But it is what it is.

I’ve been a bit over anxious with everything today. I’m still miles better than I have been in the past. My mind is just whirring with so many things and won’t settle.

I’ve made a few decisions and that’s helped out some of them to bed.

I’ve just been to meet the Crochet Hookers and had a good catch up.

Candles lit and comfies on. And try to relax.

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1212 has a nice to ring to it!!

Day 1212 eh?! Who’d a thunk it!

Talking to mum on the way home tonight and I told her that writing this blog is a form of meditation for me. It allows me to review my day and assess my feelings and emotions…. And boy have I been angry today. Like lighting the blue touch paper all the time.

My ego has been a pain in the ass today. It feels so hard done to for no reason and kicks off every time something doesn’t go my planned way.

Life can’t always be straightforward, it can’t always be planned. I need to be able to adapt but I seem, sorry my ego seems, to find this so hard to do sometimes.

I try to have everything planned to the nth degree. I have to do this to keep my anxiety in check, it’s the way I work. I struggle feeling out of control. It blows up like a volcano that way over exaggerates the actual thing. I either need to be in control of it all or none of it. I need to find away to be in control of some things at some times and other things at other times and not being sure what things when. 😂

I have to be honest and say I’m actually laughing at that now. Honestly I can be a complex soul at times.

I walked in to a bike rack on the back door of a van today. I was walking round the back of the van when the door was open and the bike rack sticks out…. I followed boss man but didn’t obviously take as wide a berth as he did. He heard the whack and came running!! I was actually really lucky that it hit square across my forehead and not my glasses or the top of my head. I only have a very slight dent that wasn’t there earlier!

It knocked a bit of sense into me!!

So I’m just back from crochet and we had a good blether tonight. Births, marriages and despatches!!

We took a wee walk to a new meadow garden that’s been planted at the end of the village…. It’s so lovely and EXACTLY the look I was going for with my meadow garden last year. Mine did not work AT ALL!!

So pretty!! Thanks to Rachel two doors down for the good shout. She spotted it walking the dog this morning.

So yeah, not that proud of my reactions today, just another learning curve. The joys 😂😘

There’s always tomorrow!

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1211 not quite so blasé today 🤦🏻‍♀️😆

I didn’t sleep that well last night. I was awake for a full hour from about 1.15…. just wide awake listening to some insane noise I’m my head. I’m not sure what it was… what caused it. but it was like a caffeine boost. My heart was thumping so loudly I could hear it in my head. I assumed the gentle roar of snore next to me, had wakened me but I honestly think it was all my own doing. I felt really shattered when I got up.

As I know fine well, life is what you make it so I sat and had a lovely caffeine black coffee with Craig before getting ready for work. Yup… the irony is not lost on me. 🙄

Some of his birthday gifts were coffee based. We now have beans and a grinder… Auntie Jac will be awfy impressed… she’s the snobbiest coffee buff I know 😂😘 this stuff is pretty good but considering I probably usually drink the coffee from the coffee factory floor…. It’s easy to be impressed.

Work was good but I wasn’t quite as fancy free as yesterday. The voice was back and fighting with the calm head. Not badly, just enough not to be sitting here smugly tonight.

I know what is wrong…. I’m all ready to sell the van, was so excited, raring to go, then stalled. Let’s think this through….

I just need to pluck up the courage… face all my anxiety and fears and put Abbie the Campervan actually up for sale…. And sell it.

Being a people pleaser, the transaction between seller and buyer of a vehicle is a wary one and therefore, not my favourite. I win people over with my honesty and personality and not everyone buying a car (or van) from you, will respond to this. I feel their approach is to try and catch you out, to highlight the things you’re not saying. That makes me very nervous, so much so, I’d happily let anyone sell her to save me doing it.

I know that this is just the next uncomfortable learning curve that I need to hop on. I know that it will probably be fine and that I will probably do a great job. All that said I’d rather just put it off and get into my comfies and hide. 🤭🙄

So I’m just going to do it.

I don’t have to sell her to someone who thinks she’s overpriced.

I don’t have to sell her to someone who picks holes in her or tells me everything that’s wrong.

If the worst comes to the worst and something goes wrong with her during the sale, I can get her fixed and resell.

Nothing is insurmountable.

I just have to pull up my big girl pants, step RIGHT OUT of my comfort zone and put myself out there.

Dramatic eh?! You’d expect nothing less.

In other news, Facebook actually phoned me yesterday… can’t believe I forgot to share this revelation. Almost 3 weeks after the review that would take 24-48 hours…. It would appear my case was not a simple one.

The fake profiles on my account have been removed.

I’ve not been hacked in 3 weeks. My timezone still doesn’t feel right. I can open links on FB marketplace as it may not be accessible “in my country” hmmmm maybe not if you still think I’m in Western Indonesia!! They say I show as London, which would cover the whole of the UK but I’m still not certain.

I think I clicked a link that asks me to confirm all my logins… and effectively gave the hackers my login details. Life is just one long learning curve.

Won’t do that again!!

Ok enough hiding behind the blog… I’m off to write the advert. 🫣

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1210 torrential rain all day but still a sunny disposition 😆🤦🏻‍♀️😂

It has not stopped raining all day. I was up by 6 and into Tartan for 7am, to wash Abbie the Campervan, as people were coming to view her today.

I wore old clothes and took my work clothes with me and even a hair dryer! I needed it all. I was soaked through by the time I’d finished. A customer came in to drop off a van about 7.30am and I looked like a drowned rat 😂

Anyway, sadly it was not meant to be. I have a very clean van for no reason as they decided to buy something else over the weekend.

After the initial disappointment at getting out of bed so early and getting soaked, I wasn’t even that upset as these things happen. No amount of being upset or annoyed makes any difference… and yes I hear myself! Who actually am I?!

There have been a few things today that would normally really stress me out or set some rocket off, inside my head. I’m so pleased when I can let things go that would usually be a trigger. I accepted the situations for exactly what they were and got on with with was needed. I really felt the difference today. (I should say that none of these things are a big deal and all SHOULD be totally let go anyway.)

When you suffer from anxiety and serious overthinking, it’s an amazing feeling when that critical voice is quiet. That voice would have had a field day today. I know everything it would say and even when I try to hear it, I sit here smiling knowing that none of it is true and none of it is means anything. I hope that makes sense.

The Scottish Dog Behaviourist is still out at work so I have the remote to myself and I’m catching up on Sweet Magnolias…. My lovely friend Cheryl-Lynn posted on FB about it, I didn’t realise there was a third series yet! It’s such a sweet show… it wouldn’t be Craig’s cup of tea…. At all. 😂

I’ll leave you with some photos of Abbie the Campervan. FOR SALE!!

It’s the cleanest she’s been since I first bought her from exactly that same spot outside Tartan Campers!

That was the fastest photo shoot in the rain!!

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1169 a teensy weensy bit grumpy this afternoon but clawing it back!

I was shattered when I got up this morning again. Slept like a log all night and could hardly move when the alarm went off. Since starting HRT I reckon this would most likely be time of the month, but nothing happens anymore so maybe I just have the lethargy and negativity so graciously served up at this time, or I’m actually just tired and grumpy!

I dragged myself out on dog jog and actually felt so much better for doing it. I was very grateful for dog sniffing to save me jogging!

It’s super cloudy this morning, rain forecast but warm considering it’s only 6am.

So I actually felt great this morning.

Noticed that I wasn’t able to like any comments on my new Just Jules Photography page first thing, but figured it must be a signal issue and didn’t think any more of it.

Got the monthly stock check completed today which is always a big task. All these ducks that I want in a row for finishing up on Thursday, grew arms and legs and started walking away from me! Jobs that I thought were easy became more than I bargained for. I think I have to accept that I won’t get it all done.

I also felt a bit like this before we finished up for Iceland. The pressure I put on myself, to leave everything in a perfect state, makes me anxious and worried when things don’t go to my well laid plans. I had to take a few deep breaths to calm my nerves. I catastrophize about everything that could go wrong when I’m not there to manage my side of it. Why would I ever take holidays eh?!

Today’s motto was “ works well under pressure…NOT!” I reckon. I do not work well when I’m out of control, that’s for sure.

I found out at lunchtime that I was on some kind of 9 hour curfew with Facebook….

My activity didn’t follow which standards? Doesn’t help that everyone I told said “what did you do wrong?” 🥺

My account was hacked a few weeks back. Someone random accepted s friend request that I hadn’t made. I caught it quick and my password was changed. since then they keep asking me if my activity is my own…. Which is great really but it feels like FB hasn’t been the same since. My newsfeed has been dreadfully slow, mostly businesses and I hadn’t felt right for a while. Now this. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Then the doctors surgery phoned to say, “good news, we have managed to track down some Utrogestan (progesterone) for you…. You just have to collect it in Howood”

😳

I felt so deflated by everything. Real doom and gloom and humphing about thinking it’s so unfair I can’t even drink to cheer myself up.

None of these things are a big deal…. I apologised to the lady calling from the doctor, for my dejected tone and told her I’d just had a bad afternoon and I thanked her for trying to source the progesterone… she felt really bad that I had to try and get to Howood which is actually 12 minutes from here. That puts it into perspective doesn’t it! I work 5.5 days a week and don’t have any spare time to go and get it…. But I will have to make the time!

So I listened to Fearne Cotton’s Happy Place podcast on the way home.

That did the trick. Sorry I should also add that I vented it all to poor mum… that probably really did the trick and the podcast smoothed over the cracks.

Take time for yourself every day to be present in the day.

They called it a ritual. I don’t imagine much more of a ritual than writing a daily blog every day, so it was great to hear of the benefits of doing something like this. Sitting with your emotions, anger, fear and worry and trying to understand it. Even if only for 30 seconds a day. This, of course, takes me way longer than that 😆

The blog hasn’t posted automatically over to FB for 3 nights now. These things are sent to try us! There’s good reason so many people avoid it! Will see how it goes tonight.

It’s a beautiful evening. The sun is hot. I’ve had another lovely salad, fasting is still going well and we go on holiday on Saturday. So much to be grateful for. I’ve had an alcohol free pink gin and lemonade in a gin glass with a huge ice cube!!

It made a lovely sound as I swirled the ice cube round in the glass. Like a bell ringing… kinda.

I would love to get up for sunrise tomorrow morning on Summer Solstice but it’s at 4.34am and the forecast looks cloudy…. I would also love to stay up for sunset at 22.07!! I am fairly certain my tiredness will allow neither. 😆

Stay safe everyone ☀️🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿☀️

Day 1149 a cold start but a scorcher with a little home made drama in the middle!

Up at 5.45am to take the Scottish Dog Behaviourist to Glasgow Airport.

It was a cool and cloudy start to the day. I set off in my shorts…. Found a random place to throw him out of the van at the airport as the costs to drop off are ridiculous. 😂 I headed straight to work and was still there 10 minutes before 8am. Felt like I’d been driving for days!

Busy morning and the sun came out around 11ish. Until then I was wrapped up in my big fleece!

So at lunch time Ellison sets up the seats outside and I start tracking Craig’s flight. I’ve checked in on it a few times through the morning and can see him starting to descend. It’s quite addictive… ok if you like that sort of thing!

I see him get as low as 737ft and 187 knots

I wonder out loud what happens to a plane that disappears from radar on this app, when all of a sudden it starts to climb and very fast.

The plane takes off again and heads out to size gaining in height and speed. It disappears off my screen as it’s moving so fast again…. A tiny part of me assumes the worst until I realise it’s still in the sky…. Visible when I zoom back out again!

I start to feel a bit squeamish and can’t eat my lunch. I go put in in the fridge.

It climbs back to 5,479 and stays there while doing a full loop back to get it back on track.

It’s fascinating to see how it just picks up exactly the same approach…. What else would you expect but you don’t think of that.

I watch him come back down to 100ft and the height goes haywire, he rises, he falls, he rises again, it gets stuck for a while at 87ft and it takes far to long to look like he has actually landed. There is a chance the height measurement could be 87ft off the ground but my head tells my otherwise.

I’m shaking, I have pins and needles all over, I feel sick and even have dry retch behind a van.

By the time he texts I am so relieved… he says there was a plane on the runway. 😱 he’s neither up nor down but lands to a million WhatsApp’s from me! In my ridiculous panic I did have a wry smile that he would switch his phone on in the plane and it would ting ting ting ting ting for ages! Oops….

So I’ve learned today that I might love my husband a bit more than I even realised…. I’ve told him that already. 😂😂

He took these lovely shots for me during his aborted landing!

An obvious sign be wasn’t that bothered!

So I’ve been sat in the garden with the 3 pup amigos since I finished work. Holly next door is looking after them during the day while I’m at work. So lovely of her. We couldn’t do this without her.

Crochet was cancelled tonight so Claire has just been in to the garden for a chat. I could SO get used to this weather!!! It’s much hotter today than it was even yesterday. Way more to come tomorrow.

Craig is settling in well in his Spanish home for the next week. He’s introduced me to his 5 new dogs and training starts tomorrow. I’m so proud of everything he’s achieved to get to where he is this year. Follow updates from him on Scottish Dog Behaviourist.

So I’m hoping for way less drama from tomorrow!!

This might just be the summer that we’ve all been waiting for. We need to enjoy it when we can in Scotland as it could all be over in a heartbeat!

Stay safe everyone 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿✈️🇪🇸

Day 1139 only snippets of living in the moment dammit!!

Jeez I have definitely not been appreciating the present moment today.

Everything I am focussed on is for the next few days. I know that’s not the right way to be so I’m sitting outside just now, trying to shake it.

When you have a house with 3 Border Collies and one man (🙊) the house is never going to live up to your high expectations.

I say that, but Craig is very good at cleaning so I shouldn’t include him in that, though I think women are much more of a “clean as you go” when men do a great one off clean…. That’s how I see it in my house anyway.

Not trying to start a war here by any means just blogging it as it ruminates inside my head. He was the one that made me write a list first thing…. He did say jeez that’s all in your head right now?!? Yup!

Let’s also say that Julie 2 jobs is also very lazy when it comes to housework as I always feel I need down time, a chance to relax.

So I’ve been cleaning now since about 8.30am and it’s now just after 1.30 and I think I might finally be able to allow my friend to come and stay. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m sure a lot can go wrong between now and Monday night, when she arrives, but at least I know it’s clean underneath.

The evil voice inside my head, has been on overtime today. Embarrassed at the “state” of my house, embarrassed at the things that need fixing, embarrassed by the things I’ve let go… if I’d just kept on top of them the it would be fine.

I should reiterate that we live in a 300-350 ish year old cottage. That alone is a challenge.

I also suffer from Hangxiety.

We still have stuff lying around that I keep moving from room to room. I know it needs to just go and when it’s gone, it’s gone, but I struggle to throw it out. So I find another place to stash it, which will just stress me out another day!

I’m passing up the opportunity to go wild sea swimming at Portencross, which has been my dream. She says.

It would appear it’s just not quite my dream when I’ve finally got the housework finished and I’d have to unpack all the swimming stuff and then getting it rinsed down, sand everywhere blah blah… you get the picture!

So back to reality.

We have beautiful house. There is nothing wrong with it. Parts of it are sparkling for the next few minutes. I’m outside still in jammies and there a real warmth to the cloud cover.

I can’t go back it the house and Craig is under house arrest, in the living room, watching the football as he cleans! I guarantee he will be the first to walk on a wet floor. AI did make him go to the loo so he doesn’t need out anytime soon 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 it’s ok I hear myself. I have so many rules!!!

This has been the first weekend in a long time that I have been thinking about Tartan over a weekend. I used to be really bad for that in my old job. Not so much now.

I think it boils down to what I said about trying to catch back from a holiday, while finishing up for another one.

So I think now I just need to stop and enjoy the rest of the day. I might actually put some shorts on…. 😂 it’s around

This next one is exactly what I need to hear.

And also this….

So I have 2 days off from work this week, with a lovely friend, which is amazing. The weather looks promising too which is another bonus. There’s a lot to be happy about.

A couple of funnies to end….

Have a great rest of weekend!

HE’S IN THE BATHROOM!!!!! THAT FLOOR BETTER BE DRY…… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️😂😂😂😂

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 1127 out of the office is on!! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿✈️🇮🇸

Wide awake at 3.30am this morning thinking about everything I needed to do on my last day. Jeez I’m only off for two whole days which was probably why it was so easy. 🤦🏻‍♀️😂

Had a relatively calm day and got through everything I needed to.

The sun shone today and we sat out at lunchtime. It was so nice to feel the warmth of the sun! The temperatures are picking up here but Iceland will be a few degrees cooler. Obviously. 🥶

In less than 12 hours we’ll be flying from Edinburgh to Keflavik Airport in Iceland.

It doesn’t look very far does it?!

So super early start for us! Trying not to wake the neighbours. 😆

It’s been so long since we flew anywhere and my new found indecisiveness is convinced I’m taking all the wrong clothes 🤦🏻‍♀️😆 I packed a last minute pair of shorts and flip flops in case the sun shines in some freak weather event!!! Gotta have that optimism.

I dropped Abbie the Campervan off to the garage for her holidays…. MOT and full service along with a knock at the O/S front 🤦🏻‍♀️😬🤷🏻‍♀️😂

So despite all the excitement, I do feel a bit flat tonight as I had the call with the Doctor today finally.

The call comes through in the middle of your working day and I felt very much like I’d been thrown into a discussion that I hadn’t had time to think about.

In the past, you would sit in the surgery and rehearse your “lines”. The call is great and it saves you going to the surgery but the two hour window makes it difficult to stay prepared.

I told her how I’d been feeling and how the anxiety was taking over again. I explained the fear that seemed so overwhelming at times. And of course in true me fashion I ended up crying on the phone…

The purpose of the call, for me, was to ask for Testosterone which is the next step in the HRT cycle.

Did that word even register in my thought process once during the call?!?! Nope. Zero. Nada.

She has re-prescribed antidepressants.

I have to say I am completely torn between being devastated and slightly relieved as there may be some light at the end of the tunnel of fear that’s been building up.

I can’t tell you how hard this is for me I write.

It feels so awkward and vulnerable.

I’m cringing at the very thought of posting this yet I always said I’d be honest. If I can help one other person see how difficult life can feel for someone who looks like they should have it all together, then it’s worth it. (how do I think that is actually one sentence?!)

It feels like s step back to me. Like I’m admitting defeat. Like I’ve given in.

Yet I am so tired fighting these feelings AND I wouldn’t say any of that to a friend who was considering taking them.

When I should be super excited about a holiday I’m worried that I ruin it by being a jerk when we’re away. There’s a very fine line between happy and excited me and jerk me. (Forgive the shocking English… 🤦🏻‍♀️😂)

So… to take or not to take. That is the question.

I haven’t yet.

I am sure I probably will but I could do without that life changing decision tonight. I have a holiday to sleep for!!

Calaidh is not letting us leave without her.

So, I’m not sure what will happen with the blog for the next few days. I may or may not be able to post but rest assured there will be a million photos being taken while I try my best not to be a jerk!

Here’s Bhruic and Freya guarding the bags now 😂

I’m off to post this before I chicken out but I must admit I do feel better for typing it.

Stay safe everyone 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿✈️🇮🇸

Day 1120 a day of two halves 😆😭

I had THE best sleep. Wow. Out for the count and awake just before 6am.

I always find after some anxiety, that the sleep is really good as I’m so exhausted having to do all that overthinking, 😆 it makes sense really.

I had a great morning, made lunch to take to work, was soooo focussed that I got loads of work done early on. Cleared my feet and got on with the day.

I’ve noticed in the last wee while I am not taking any criticism well and I’m being aggressively defensive, internally, towards it. It’s probably not even criticism, it’s just what I’m hearing in my head. Like lighting the blue touch paper but it all stays inside and doesn’t come out.

A couple of things happened this afternoon that filled the old waterworks.

We’ve had a lot of supplier errors that could, in part, be my fault but actually just seems to be a run of bloody bad luck…. but I’ve built up a fear of letting everyone down by not having the right parts. So what happens?!? My dream comes true. Twice today. Thank you.

And once again, I am “that” person who cried at work. I have tears burning in my eyes even typing that. So disappointed in myself. Sniffles, snot, the lot.

I seem to be able to manifest the bad stuff in a heartbeat, yet the good stuff really makes me work hard for it.

So I’m feeling pretty low right now but the good news is, I have kinesiology in less than an hour so hopefully makes some sense of the evil twin inside my head, fighting me with all her worth.

I am so tired of having to deal with her all the time but I’ve worked way too hard to give in anymore. (even as I read that back I know she’s not there all the time…. Prone to exaggeration in this mode!)

I tried to call the doctor this morning to discuss the anxiety. I called at 8.31 without even having to watch the clock for the 10 minutes beforehand. I was impressed. I got straight though which is unheard of at the best of times. Unfortunately no appointments today and to call back Thursday. While it’s disappointing that the appointments had all gone within one minute of the lines opening….. 😳 the receptionist was lovely and it couldn’t be helped.

I think this whole thing would be so much more bearable if I didn’t cry. It feels like such a weakness.

So… I’m kind of out of words just now. There are more tears to come. I wonder now whether I’m crying at the things that went wrong or at my crying about the things that went wrong. That conjured a tearful smile.

It’s hard work this self reflection.

I do not like to be out of control.

I have so many processes, procedures and plans in place to make sure things go the way I need them to go. Suppliers making mistakes was not on my radar….. it has to be now and I don’t want to have to deal with that too… but I have to, if this is the state I get into but not following up every order and despatch note. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Here endeth todays wee moan.

Sorry.

I’ll end with some Calaidh puppy pics as it her 8 year gotcha day.

Those eyes 👀

Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️

Day 100 of COVID-19 lockdown… what have we learned so far? 🌍❤️🌈

💯days eh?! Which means I have written a blog every day for 92 days as I only started on what we recorded as our day 8. I see others saying we’re already up to 103/104 etc but this is when we calculated it at the time and rather than stress that my whole blog is worthless and rubbish the new me is choosing to keep going as is. It’s our day 100. Mine and Craigie’s and Calaidh’s and Bhruic’s and Freya’s….. forgive the poor English 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️😬 but you know what I mean.

If anyone had told you, 100 days ago, that our lives were going to change in a way we could never begin to imagine, we just wouldn’t have believed it. A world where we could stand right next to anyone and touch anyone (with reason obvs!) and we literally hugged people we didn’t even know. We didn’t have a care in the world when it came to that kind of stuff. Yeah we turned out noses up at folk not washing their hands after going to the loo etc but we screwed up our face and moved on. We survived.

Now we have an unseen killer. A virus that can spread among us through touch, can survive on surfaces and pass to others and we can’t see it. We have no idea where it’s lurking and worst of all, people can have it and not even know they are infected. It’s the stuff of horror movies!!

We watched every virus movie while we’ve been stuck home and the truth is actually terrifying. We watched these in the past thinking they were just that… far fetched thrillers. We had no idea.

So 100 days ago, we finally realised how serious this was and Craig stopped work and we stayed home to save lives, to help stop the transmission of COVID-19. We “sheltered in place” as they said in America. We only left the house for dog walks and food shopping for months.

It feels like a time for reflection…. what have we learned in this 100 days? Apart from the fact that the rainbow is a sign of hope 🌈❤️

We’ve learned that family and being together is everything. We’ve been given a special gift to spend time with each other but we’ve also been told that we can’t see other family members or friends that have been a part of our daily lives. We’ve seen a community spirit that was always there in Gateside but growing in a way we would never have imagined. That old war time share and share alike. I’ve bartered with rice and milk and sugar… there’s been a lot of sugar passing over fences. We’ve made the best of the lockdown life we’ve been given. Generations ago our grandparents etc were sent to war, we were told to stay home and watch tv, I mean how lucky are we?

The material things in life have become irrelevant. Even with all the money and possessions in the world you still had to stay home. Businesses are realising people can work from home without the world ending and it will reduce their overheads and the carbon footprint of their staff.

We have learned to appreciate the present. To live in the moment as everything else is too uncertain. Everyone is living on the same terms. 🌍

Personally we’ve learned to appreciate each other again and communicate clearly as we have had time to spend together. We can see what makes the other tick, what triggers and argument and we can stop it in its tracks with a laugh or a shrug of the shoulders saying here we go again. Through writing this I have expressed my daily feelings in a way that shows how erratic they are, how quick they are to flare up to anxious, fever pitch but most importantly how virtually none of it is Craig’s fault. He doesn’t have to second guess everything. He can just read it if he didn’t already know it. 🤣🤣🤣

I have learned to slow down, to watch the world move on through different eyes. To watch my handsome husband and smile realising he’s mine, to walk 3 Border Collies without them pulling on the lead, to value the endless movie nights, the takeaways and the connections with others. I hope that the world will be a better place as a result.

However, we have to remember that we have been untouched by this deadly virus. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again. We are very lucky.

Worldwide stats

The UK have lost 44,131 souls to COVID-19 officially but there is evidence that the number of excess deaths for this year far exceeds that. Scotland stands at 2,488 people so far.

England is seeing a surge in new cases, particularly in London where the R rate is creeping above 1. For everyone one person infected at least one other person catches it. There seemed no doubt this would be the case as the amount of protests and large gatherings threw people together at a time when we were still meant to be 2m apart. It’s easy for me to sit here smugly and be happy that our lockdown isn’t as loose as England’s, that our government is being more strict.

Localised restrictions in Dumfries and Galloway now too
I’ve read today that Boris has urged people not to think of Saturday as Super Saturday as we need to still be careful and make sure that we protect each other by not spreading the virus. Yet apparently pubs can open at 6am….. several chains are planning to open just after this. Maybe it just because I don’t drink anymore that this seems so crazy to me?!?

I am nervous of normal returning as I had stepped back from normal for a good year or so. This is my new normal and I love it!!

I did not love the weather today!! It has stoated down all day… absolutely soaked on the dog walk again.
This is where the dogs usually play and Craig day over the other side of the burn. Bhru stuck her tongue in it to take a drink but didn’t go any closer.
Same at this but! It’s like they are on a life raft together 🤣
Phone got soaked every time I took a pic!
Drookit pup #1 wouldn’t stop playing with the stick long enough! Check the coos behind her under that tree… miserable!
Drookit pup #2
Drookit pup #3 always happy regardless of the weather… 😬😆
Bhru’s telling Calaidh Reek St is flooded
Did manage to see some beauty in the dreich day!
Thistles in the rain

It’s all about how you look at it… I was walking along thinking this is miserable, cold and wet, must be crazy being out in this when I saw a neighbour in Reek Street and he said “good weather for ducks!” 🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆 that really made me smile as I’ve not heard that in years!! Splashed through all the puddles in my wellies from then on! 😆

And I wonder why my house isn’t a palace?!? Check these 3…. how many sopping wet dogs can you fit on a couch?! Least I put their dog robes on!! Unlike some people 😬🤣

Came home from dog walk and did a poop scoop as I was soaked anyway…. thought it would be a good idea to do it before the bins go out. Got the grey bin ready and took it round the front…. it’s Friday…. grey bin doesn’t go out until Tuesday……. wtf 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️🤣🤣🤣 my brain is frazzled today as it’s been such a busy week. Not busy in the sense of how busy I used to be… but very busy for me. I did another 2 Pawsitive Solution calls today… the first was dreadful… it was like putting the wheelie bin out 4 days early! Nothing flowed…. but the second was great.

This is what I have to put up with…. 🥰😆🎾🐶

So now I am wrapped in my crocheted blanket with my feet up in front of the fire. I plan not to move until bedtime!

Thanks again to everyone for sticking with this everyday. It means a lot!

Stay safe everyone ❤️💜❤️ here’s to the next 100 days and who knows what they might bring?!? X