I’m late today. I’ve been a busy bee all day.
I was in work early for a customer visit today and haven’t stopped all day. It’s all good. I feel under control. I’m scared to admit that because when I do things seem to go wrong. It’s nice to have a good few days.
I felt a bit anxious this morning but I was very aware of it and managed to shift it.
It has not stopped raining all day! Torrential rain, stotting down all day… hammering on the roof of our portacabin at Tartan HQ. I
When I got home I put a washing on and then went upstairs to work on the Village hall year end accounts. I spent a couple of hours finalising everything and got them submitted to our accountant.
I am pretty chuffed with that since it’s only 5th April. Last year I didn’t submit them until December….. this is how it should be! all is well with the world!
So it’s 8pm before I sat down to write the blog….
I’m listening to another good Happy Place podcast with Fearne Cotton interviewing Dr Rongan Chatterjee.
It’s such a good one, I highly recommend a listen.
He talks about how we should show compassion for others. If we disagree with someone or someone wrongs us, we should try to understand the position the other person is coming from. Understand why they think like they think, or why they have acted as they have.
I am very good at this I think! If I get angry at something I try to understand why. It belittles my anger quickly.
Now we can’t always be saints and there will be odd thing that sends us into orbit but for the most part this is how I’d like to live my life. Compassion for others.
Also to understand that we are the subject of our past, our generations and subsequently how we have been brought up. Rongan said his parents always expected more of him in exam results, if he got 90% they asked why not 91%?
This made him grow up thinking he was never good enough and had to perfect to gain their approval. Difficult to live up to.
He has recently discussed this with his mum…. Fearne cringed at that!
His parents came to the UK in 1962 when the UK asked for Indian doctors to support the workload here. His father worked a day job and another night job for 30 years. THIRTY YEARS with virtually no sleep, how is that even possible?
His mum said that they believed success was the most important factor in life and would ultimately bring them happiness.
However… she never saw her husband. The children never saw their dad but he was very successful and provided for them and gave them a better life than they may have had in India. His parents only wanted Rongan to succeed and be successful in life so pushed him to excel. With only the very best of intentions.
The two separate perspectives make complete sense when you actually take time to think about them.
Powerful. Rongan does his own podcast too so I might give that a listen again.
Love this next one… this is sooo me now!
Also this…. I’ve made so many internet friendships in the last few years. So many people that have played a huge part in my recovery… and I have never met them.
We have connected because of our personalities and that’s very important to me. ♥️
It’s still raining….. ☔️☔️☔️
Stay safe everyone ♥️♥️♥️